Spring Break--Up?

Dear Aubrey,
i have a boy problem: okay so for spring break, we went to mexico with my sister and her friendss. my sis's bff's brother was there (mike) so mike me and my 2 brothers all hung out together. at night, we would play elevator tag. we would split up two and two. at first mike and i were on a team and the rounds were long so we played like 1 then the days inbetween we always switched off. on the last night there, we were playing elevator tag and me and mike both wanted to be on each others teams. will we were hiding one time we went into a small room wiht a phone in it and talked for like ten minutes. (the phone booth was out of bounds) then we thought that my brothers would get mad so we left. that was 2 weeks ago. now we have been home for like 1.5 weeks. i hadnt seen him since break, but at the movies on sat we ran into each other. he was wearing a hat, so i texted him from across the room and said you dont look cool in that hat. (like sarcastically-- we always made fun of each other on break...) and then since then we have been constantly texting. not like every second, but like at least a few times each day. last night i stayed up until 12:30 texting him but then i fell asleep. so here is my problem. 1. i dont know if i like him, but i am pretty sure i do. 2. idk if he likes me? thats my main thing.. do you think he does? 3. he is a sophmore and i am a freshmen, so we like dont have the same friends or anything.

any advice would be great!
--Abby



Dear Abby,

First off, i think that if you're questioning whether you like this guy or not, that's a red light going off. Sometimes people question whether they like someone or they go out with someone just because they want that feeling you get when someone else likes you, or the thrill of dating. I think that if you really liked someone, you would know it instantly, or soon after you got to know them. Although, I've known some people who have gotten to become friends over many years and then ended up getting married and they never expected that when they first met them. So either way, i think that you need to seriously think if you really like them and if you still aren't sure, take some time to get to know them before thinking about having a dating relationship with them. Maybe rather than texting, if you live close to each other, going out on a casual "date" might be easier for you guys to get to know each other better. I think that sometimes people judge how another's personality is or will be until they really get to know them so i think that it's important that you get to know who he really is before you make the desicion to date. But if you are too far away to see eachother, i dont think that its a good idea for you to date him especially if you are uncertain because that will just make your relationship weak and it probably wont last long.

About your second problem, there's really no way that i can tell if he likes you, so i think that you're going to have to experiment with that for yourself. Sorry. Guys can be really complicated, so unless i meet him personally i dont really know how he acts around girls and how he shows a girl he likes her or what. so i think that if you get to know him better, and if he does infact like you, maybe he'll make the first move.

Lastly, about the whole "we dont have the same friends thing" i think that sometimes its better that way. sure it may be scary having to hang around with his older friends, but then you get to meet new people. and if you do break up, you dont have to deal with his friends anymore and you can go back to your friends. where as if you had the same friends and you broke up, that may cause your group to split up.

i think that it's important for you to feel confident in which ever desicion you make, so make sure that you think carefully before you commit. Let us know how it goes,

xoxo Aubrey, Opal, Allie xoxo