Dear Aubrey,
i have a boy problem: okay so for spring break, we went to mexico with my sister and her friendss. my sis's bff's brother was there (mike) so mike me and my 2 brothers all hung out together. at night, we would play elevator tag. we would split up two and two. at first mike and i were on a team and the rounds were long so we played like 1 then the days inbetween we always switched off. on the last night there, we were playing elevator tag and me and mike both wanted to be on each others teams. will we were hiding one time we went into a small room wiht a phone in it and talked for like ten minutes. (the phone booth was out of bounds) then we thought that my brothers would get mad so we left. that was 2 weeks ago. now we have been home for like 1.5 weeks. i hadnt seen him since break, but at the movies on sat we ran into each other. he was wearing a hat, so i texted him from across the room and said you dont look cool in that hat. (like sarcastically-- we always made fun of each other on break...) and then since then we have been constantly texting. not like every second, but like at least a few times each day. last night i stayed up until 12:30 texting him but then i fell asleep. so here is my problem. 1. i dont know if i like him, but i am pretty sure i do. 2. idk if he likes me? thats my main thing.. do you think he does? 3. he is a sophmore and i am a freshmen, so we like dont have the same friends or anything.
any advice would be great!
--Abby
Dear Abby,
First off, i think that if you're questioning whether you like this guy or not, that's a red light going off. Sometimes people question whether they like someone or they go out with someone just because they want that feeling you get when someone else likes you, or the thrill of dating. I think that if you really liked someone, you would know it instantly, or soon after you got to know them. Although, I've known some people who have gotten to become friends over many years and then ended up getting married and they never expected that when they first met them. So either way, i think that you need to seriously think if you really like them and if you still aren't sure, take some time to get to know them before thinking about having a dating relationship with them. Maybe rather than texting, if you live close to each other, going out on a casual "date" might be easier for you guys to get to know each other better. I think that sometimes people judge how another's personality is or will be until they really get to know them so i think that it's important that you get to know who he really is before you make the desicion to date. But if you are too far away to see eachother, i dont think that its a good idea for you to date him especially if you are uncertain because that will just make your relationship weak and it probably wont last long.
About your second problem, there's really no way that i can tell if he likes you, so i think that you're going to have to experiment with that for yourself. Sorry. Guys can be really complicated, so unless i meet him personally i dont really know how he acts around girls and how he shows a girl he likes her or what. so i think that if you get to know him better, and if he does infact like you, maybe he'll make the first move.
Lastly, about the whole "we dont have the same friends thing" i think that sometimes its better that way. sure it may be scary having to hang around with his older friends, but then you get to meet new people. and if you do break up, you dont have to deal with his friends anymore and you can go back to your friends. where as if you had the same friends and you broke up, that may cause your group to split up.
i think that it's important for you to feel confident in which ever desicion you make, so make sure that you think carefully before you commit. Let us know how it goes,
xoxo Aubrey, Opal, Allie xoxo
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Girl Help!!!
help!!! said...
I need help! I have some girls who keep telling everyone that we are going out. she also keeps asking me out. Last dance I made one of them cry because I wouldn't dance with them and now she wants me to go to the dance with her. Plain & simple, I need help.
well, you're gonna have to be careful in this situation, b/c if u misstep they could end up flipping out on you even more. Ok, well, they'll probably flip out on you anyway, but if you want them to leave you alone, you'll have to be pretty firm with them and let them know you're not interested. There are two ways you can do that. either you can grit your teeth and tell them (as nicely as possible, but still firmly) that you don't like them or you can ask out your crush and hopefully go out w/ her so that these other girls get the message. the second way is definitely that way you don't wanna go, b/c they may just yell at you more for leading them on or something and it'll just hurt them more. You definitely should apologize to that girl for making her cry, even if it's not your fault, b/c you'll look like a nice person and maybe they'll be nicer to you later if you're nice to them.
<3 opal
I need help! I have some girls who keep telling everyone that we are going out. she also keeps asking me out. Last dance I made one of them cry because I wouldn't dance with them and now she wants me to go to the dance with her. Plain & simple, I need help.
well, you're gonna have to be careful in this situation, b/c if u misstep they could end up flipping out on you even more. Ok, well, they'll probably flip out on you anyway, but if you want them to leave you alone, you'll have to be pretty firm with them and let them know you're not interested. There are two ways you can do that. either you can grit your teeth and tell them (as nicely as possible, but still firmly) that you don't like them or you can ask out your crush and hopefully go out w/ her so that these other girls get the message. the second way is definitely that way you don't wanna go, b/c they may just yell at you more for leading them on or something and it'll just hurt them more. You definitely should apologize to that girl for making her cry, even if it's not your fault, b/c you'll look like a nice person and maybe they'll be nicer to you later if you're nice to them.
<3 opal
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
anonymous said...
dude, i like this guy
but he's dating some1 else, so he's not available. everytime i talk with him, he always flirts, and says we should meet up & make out. i really REALLY like him, but i feel bad for his gf. if he likes me then y doesnt he break up with her? and if he doesnt, then stop leading me on? what should i do. i deffinatly dont wanna give up on it, but i kinda like a striaght anwer
Ok, well first of all, if he's flirting w/ u and he says he wants to like get to together and make out, do u really want to date him? seriously, this just sounds like one big headache. if he's doing this to his current gf, he'll probably do it to u too. No offense, but he sounds like a player and u probably don't wanna help him cheat on his gf. But who knows, maybe he just can't decide b/w the two of u or he doesn't wanna hurt her feelings, so he contents himself by going behind her back. sounds kinda unlikely, doesn't it? Besides, if he can't decide, he'll probably cheat and if he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, does this seem like the right way to do it?
<3 Opal
dude, i like this guy
but he's dating some1 else, so he's not available. everytime i talk with him, he always flirts, and says we should meet up & make out. i really REALLY like him, but i feel bad for his gf. if he likes me then y doesnt he break up with her? and if he doesnt, then stop leading me on? what should i do. i deffinatly dont wanna give up on it, but i kinda like a striaght anwer
Ok, well first of all, if he's flirting w/ u and he says he wants to like get to together and make out, do u really want to date him? seriously, this just sounds like one big headache. if he's doing this to his current gf, he'll probably do it to u too. No offense, but he sounds like a player and u probably don't wanna help him cheat on his gf. But who knows, maybe he just can't decide b/w the two of u or he doesn't wanna hurt her feelings, so he contents himself by going behind her back. sounds kinda unlikely, doesn't it? Besides, if he can't decide, he'll probably cheat and if he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, does this seem like the right way to do it?
<3 Opal
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
pregnancy issues
sexaddict said...
i also have the problem of looking at men's underwear magazines. i think i might be gay, but as i said before, my girlfriend is pregnent. What should i do?
sexaddict said...
Can you get aids from butt sexxxx?
yes, u can get aids from anal sex.
either help pay for your girlfriend's abortion, or offer to help raise the kid. ur gonna have to split the costs and effort 50/50, so it's gonna be a lot of work. you should really talk to her about what u want to do w/ the situation you could put it up for adoption, abort it, or keep it. you're probably gonna want to go to ur local planned parenthood, too, especially if u want to abort or have it adopted. u can remain a part of the baby's life if u have an open ended adoption, btw.
Opal <3
i also have the problem of looking at men's underwear magazines. i think i might be gay, but as i said before, my girlfriend is pregnent. What should i do?
sexaddict said...
Can you get aids from butt sexxxx?
yes, u can get aids from anal sex.
either help pay for your girlfriend's abortion, or offer to help raise the kid. ur gonna have to split the costs and effort 50/50, so it's gonna be a lot of work. you should really talk to her about what u want to do w/ the situation you could put it up for adoption, abort it, or keep it. you're probably gonna want to go to ur local planned parenthood, too, especially if u want to abort or have it adopted. u can remain a part of the baby's life if u have an open ended adoption, btw.
Opal <3
foot fungus
my foot sticks!!!! said...
ive got this foot fungus. i need your help.
go see a doctor at ur local clinic, foot fungus isn't something u need to be embarrassed bout, just go ask for a diagnosis!
Opal <3
ive got this foot fungus. i need your help.
go see a doctor at ur local clinic, foot fungus isn't something u need to be embarrassed bout, just go ask for a diagnosis!
Opal <3
Friday, January 4, 2008
Cautious Cutter
yeah, i gotta admit. im a cutter. im a smoker. im severly depressed. i need ur help.
--Annonymus
First off, cutting yourself is not going to solve your problems. In fact, it can make them worse, and even create new issues. You could get infections from cutting, or even pierce an important vein. Not to mention what your friends are going to think when they find out. Smoking isn't going to help you either! That starts a whole other list of health and social difficulties.
Obviously, as you stated, you are severly deppressed. So this makes things 10 times harder on you, and we understand that, so we're here to help.
1.Keep hotline numbers handy. Next time you feel like cutting, pick up the phone and call the hotline. The people taking your calls are trained professionals who can really help you get over your obstacles. The best thing about them is that you can remain annonymus.
1-800-448-3000
1-800-843-7274 http://www.ndmda.org
1-800-DONT-CUT http://www.selfinjury.com
2.Remove cutting tools from your immediate area. If you don't have something to cut yourself with, then you won't have to worry about cutting.
3.Recognize what makes you want to cut. Once you know what triggers this, try to avoid these situations.
4."As soon as you feel the urge to cut yourself, take a deep breath, fold your arms, close your eyes and relax. Tell yourself that you are not going to cut. If possible, lie down somewhere. Stay like this until the urge goes, then quickly phone a helpline or use another means of getting help."--Wikihow.com
5.Find another way to let out your feelings. Try painting, boxing, or even dancing.
If you need more help or want more information, please let us know and we will be glad to help.
xoxo Aubrey xoxo
--Annonymus
First off, cutting yourself is not going to solve your problems. In fact, it can make them worse, and even create new issues. You could get infections from cutting, or even pierce an important vein. Not to mention what your friends are going to think when they find out. Smoking isn't going to help you either! That starts a whole other list of health and social difficulties.
Obviously, as you stated, you are severly deppressed. So this makes things 10 times harder on you, and we understand that, so we're here to help.
1.Keep hotline numbers handy. Next time you feel like cutting, pick up the phone and call the hotline. The people taking your calls are trained professionals who can really help you get over your obstacles. The best thing about them is that you can remain annonymus.
1-800-448-3000
1-800-843-7274 http://www.ndmda.org
1-800-DONT-CUT http://www.selfinjury.com
2.Remove cutting tools from your immediate area. If you don't have something to cut yourself with, then you won't have to worry about cutting.
3.Recognize what makes you want to cut. Once you know what triggers this, try to avoid these situations.
4."As soon as you feel the urge to cut yourself, take a deep breath, fold your arms, close your eyes and relax. Tell yourself that you are not going to cut. If possible, lie down somewhere. Stay like this until the urge goes, then quickly phone a helpline or use another means of getting help."--Wikihow.com
5.Find another way to let out your feelings. Try painting, boxing, or even dancing.
If you need more help or want more information, please let us know and we will be glad to help.
xoxo Aubrey xoxo
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